Anger is a God-given emotion that is meant for our good! In fact, Ephesians 4:26 states, “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down on your wrath.” The problem with anger is not that we “get mad” but rather, HOW we express that anger. Many individuals either “blow up” or “stuff it” both of which are wrong, dangerous, and sinful. When people stuff their anger, they hurt themselves and many times end up with physical diseases or depression. When people blow up, they often hurt others with words and actions as well as destroy relationships.
Anger may serve as a warning to protect us from someone or something that is harming us. Anger may also provide the impetus for conflict resolution or creative methods of coming to a decision. However, it is important for us to learn how to limit our anger and then how to appropriately release the emotion. Anger is a fact of life for everyone – let us begin to manage it! There are a multitude of reasons for individuals becoming angry but, we cannot blame others. We must take personal responsibility for our reactions. First, recognize the basis of your anger – “What just happened?” Second, think if your response is appropriate for the situation – or, did you explode without even thinking? Third, apply restraints on your reaction such as more time or distance between you and the situation.